Making Our Dreams A Reality

Aim

Because i am now faced with a hysterectomy in the next year, and myself and my Wife aren't yet ready to give up trying for a baby.

Hello All, 

I want to begin by saying thank you. Thank you for coming by and reading about our story, it means a lot that your interest has even bought you this far.

My Wife and I met 6 years ago, and have been a solid and dedicated couple ever since. We are very close, and spend most days together as we worked together within Healthcare, and now within academia.. Some people would be forgiven for thinking "Gosh, i'd do anything to get a break from my partner/husband/wife. Working together?! No Thank you!" But for us, its always been different. Its what we are used to, and for me, i adore her. Every minute i spend with her is a pleasure (mostly), and that is what makes us a unit. Being a mother was always something i thought about, i always wondered what they'd look like, how they'd be, what they'd do with their life, and if I'd do as good a job as my mum did. Then finding my wife, i then knew i could give it my best, because i had her support. 

I have a history of PCOS and Endometriosis, with adhesion's attaching themselves to my surrounding organs, which cause untold pain on a regular basis. After 2 previous operations, in 2016 i finally had another to resolve my problems, and when i came around the Consultant was lovely beyond words, and actually a colleague at the time. She came to see my wife and i, and explained her findings. They were far more severe than we imagined. She went on to explain that if i had children, she would of opted for a Total Hysterectomy as my adhesion's were that bad that my bowel was twisted and pulled up, my left ovary was stuck with a nodular fallopian tube, and adhesion's had also attached themselves to my bladder. At this point my heart fell through my feet, i knew what was coming. She went on to advise my wife and i that we should try to conceive as a matter of urgency, as i had probably a year before symptoms began again, and that the next step is indeed, and total hysterectomy. At this point i was only 29 years old with what i thought, was plenty of time to think about children ahead of me. 

At this point in our relationship, Children weren't our plan for a few years, but faced with this mad rush we got straight to it, and seeked help and advice. We were declined by our local CCG's because as a same sex couple, you can't prove infertility, therefore it states you have to have 'x' amount of failed rounds and investigations before you could even be considered, even with my condition being as it is. So we then began with Artifical Insemination which we had 4 times without any luck, then the arduous journeys back and forth to Denmark for IUI treatment, covering a huge amount of mileage in just one day because its was cheaper than doing it all in our own country! With this, as i'm sure any of your that have been through fertility treatment know, comes the mental torture, and the games your body plays on you. Some months we would be convinced its worked, even allow ourselves to think a little on what could be.. then a negative test would follow, and its a long way to fall. Each time we would dust each other off, but the further its got, the harder its become. 

So the inevitable has happened, and with savings used up, and my condition getting to a point where its now or never, we are finding ourselves seek further help. Your help. We are seeking funding to try IVF, our final option, and our final chance. I am now extremely symptomatic of my condition, and know that a Hysterectomy is looming - but i cannot mentally accept the final outcome, if i haven't tried everything possible. So this is our last chance. 

Any help at all we would be grateful of, and please share this as far and wide as possible. Now at 32 years old i am still young, and hope that IVF is the last, but successful journey we make. 

Thank you,

Carla & Debi xx

This project successfully funded on 16th October 2019