Where do I start, 15yrs ago I fled domestic violence. In one year I went through bankruptcy, redundancy, pregnancy. Homelessness, burglary, illness, harassment, court cases it’s destroyed me but I had my miracle which was my son the ONLY reason to live. After 3.5yrs of therapy and after being housed we gained a barring order. Our lives began. In 2015 I started a business it took off, I’d promised my son a house by the time he was 10yrs old. I did it, I handed my keys back to social housing and even took a contract.
We had 8 very good years for which I am grateful and I managed to buy my son and I a house and traveled.
Unfortunately problems hit when I attended a routine surgery for my eyes, I woke mid eye surgery. This has lead to Botox and further surgery. My son at 8 was diagnosed with adhd, odd and traits of asd. He was fine with send support. Unfortunately I then sent him to the local academy. He was treated appallingly, after trying to gain an ehcp the local authority undertook a psychological assessment, it was found that my son was unsafe, unwelcome and had a reading age of 10.5yrs and was advised to remove him immediately, later then diagnosed with ptsd yes ptsd from a school! Please note this school LOST his fathers court order, headteacher quit the same day as the first ofsted inspection which then found the school to be put into special measures, even on the second inspection the school even under special measures had got worse, to the point where the secretary of the state threatened to pull funding. I had to remove my son and homeschool for 7 months, I have not had a relationship in 15yrs and being his mother, breadwinner and carer this hit my business. During this time we experienced domestic violence with our neighbours, our beloved dog died Christmas Eve, and then to add I was left 9wks waiting on a pancreatic cancer diagnosis. The results were negative for which I am grateful but this had a major impact. On top of this my eye detached, haitius hernia, osteoarthritis, a ridiculous amount of eye issues, a sausage shaped pancreas, raynauds, nodules on throat, peri menopause amongst other conditions which I won’t detail, it’s left me on higher pip along with my son who was on dla. Unfortunately along with appealing for an EHCP, my dog with spinal disease, my son being left with PTSD, and A LOT of other major issues within three years it caused my PTSD to return with a bang, unfortunately this caused a shut down in my brain. I’d been asking for some help for three years, unfortunately I didn’t get anywhere, even wrote to 27mps, CAB, children services etc. There was nothing wrong with my business at all financially but I just couldn’t cope. I’ve now lost my staff (which I cannot forgive myself for) especially when one member was my mum. My son and I now face homelessness again, my house is in default. I’m doing my best to pay people but there is a huge deficit each month, we are now on food banks, with a huge guarantor loan against my house. My son sits his GCSE’s this year and I’ve blown away his future by getting ill again. My parents have to sell their house because I can’t help them, my dads extremely unwell and has just beaten cancer but is awaiting a diagnosis for another cancer, my mum now is also unwell with thyroid disease. I was holding the house of cards and now I’ve broken. I’ve been everywhere I can to try and get us help but no one can help with a ltd business and unfortunately I cannot even speak to people without getting upset or angry, I haven’t left my house since last year. I’ve been waiting on the nhs for help but also my records were mixed up, along with the DWP and HMRC.
I genuinely do not know what to do or where to start but I need to try and secure our home which has a mortgage, I CANNOT go a through homelessness again especially with my 15yr old son.
I’m sorry if this is slightly jumbled, there’s been so much in three years and I am still trying to put in order myself. I am unwell but I know things are about to get even worse, I’ve never asked for anything in fact my company even donated and held a social value score contributing to the local community but I am having to ask for help now…if I don’t then everything I’ve ever worked for will be lost
if you’ve read this far then I just want to say thank you and if you want to meet or know more please contact me…