Help Children Survive Family Breakdown

by isabel.young in Oxfordshire

We did it
On 2nd September 2015 we successfully raised £665 with 23 supporters in 21 days

When parents separate, children are often caught in the middle. Help us to offer specialist therapeutic support to up to 30 young people!

by isabel.young in Oxfordshire

To all those who have donated, we would like to say a massive thank you! Please look out for your rewards in the post and in your inbox. If you are interested in our work and would like to contribute towards supporting families affected by parental separation, please visit www.justgiving.com/ofm and be sure to check out our website! Thank you.

Project aim 

Our project aims to raise enough funds to be able to support up to 30 young people aged 6-18 who have been affected by parental separation through no fault of their own. We are calling on everyone who believes in the power of early intervention, making sure children have a voice, and offering support to those struggling with family breakdown to show their support!

By making a one-off payment of between £5 and £1000 using Go Cardless (don't worry - it won't set up a direct debit and your donation won't come out of your account until our project is completed) - you'll be making a massive difference to the communities we support across Oxfordshire.

About the Project

There aren't many of us who don't know someone who has been detrimentally affected by divorce or separation, whether it is themselves, a friend, a celebrity, or their own children.

Because we specialise in supporting families affected by parental separation, we know from experience how far-reaching relationship breakdown can be, particularly for children, who are often caught in the middle of acrimonious family relations through no fault of their own.

Dividing lives between two homes; acting as the messenger between two warring parents; feelings of guilt, anger or loneliness; and adapting to the introduction of their parents' new partners - these are just some of the issues faced by the young people we encounter on a daily basis through our Children’s Voice service. For the children we see who are too young to understand - but who sense a change in their family dynamic - separation anxiety, bed-wetting and nightmares are common responses when their parents' split up.

Because family breakdown touches nearly half of our population, it can be overlooked as an issue which causes serious grief and disruption to children and their families. Recent research has shown that of the one in three children who will experience parental separation by the time they are 16, 75% are more likely than their peers to fail at school and up to 70% are at risk of using drink and/or drugs to cope. It has also been suggested, that those who grow up in a home affected by separation are more likely to experience divorce themselves in later life.

We want to change this situation for the better and we need your help to do so!

Our project aims to further the work we are already doing with separated families across Oxfordshire. We want to raise £7000 to enable us to offer one-to-one therapeutic support to children and young people aged 6-18 who are struggling as a result of their parents' separation. This is 30 families whom we could offer support to, for free, by taking our Children’s Voice service to their door step.

Until now, Children's Voice has depended solely on the trusts, charitable giving and foundations who recognise the value of the service. In the face of increasing funding cuts, long-waiting lists for counseling through the NHS, and strict qualifying restrictions for those who do reach out for help, we are now calling on you to get support to those who need it most.

We believe it is so important to put children at the centre and not in the middle of family disputes. To be given a voice over what is happening to them, and a safe space in which to talk to a specialist support worker has been invaluable to those we have reached so far. To hear from the families who have benefitted from our work to date - check out our video, or see below for more fantastic feedback.

By pledging anything from £5 to £1000, and spreading word of our CrowdFunder UK project amongst your friends, family and colleagues (and across your social media platforms), you will be making such a difference to the lives of young people and their families at what is often a traumatic time for everyone involved.

Donations can be made via Go Cardless. This will be a one-off payment and will not set up a direct debit. You'll just need to fill in a few details, including your billing address, and it's as easy as that!

We hope you like the rewards we've put together! We see them as an extra opportunity to further the good you are already doing by choosing to support our project.

For instance, the thank you tweet that we will send you for donating £5, sees us joining together to raise the profile of a service which we know has supported hundreds of children and their families already. By giving as much as £500, you're providing a free training day to an Oxfordshire-based school of your choice. Just think of the ripple effect the knowledge of how to support families going through separation could have?! Imagine all the pupils across the years encountered by just one teacher who receives that training - it could truly have a wonderful impact.

So please, donate what you can, spread the word, and help us achieve our goal - together we can help families to find a way forward!

“Thank you for the access to Children's Voice - it is an amazing service that you provide. I am so grateful that my daughter was able to open up and talk in a safe environment and use the strategies to deal with her anger and put things in perspective for herself. I would not have been able to afford this service on my own - so thank you.” (Parent of a Children’s Voice client)

"I found it helpful having an independent person to talk to with no family connections" (anonymous Children's Voice client)

 “I was able to talk about things I wouldn’t usually be comfortable talking about” (anonymous Children's Voice client)

 

Rewards

This project offers rewards in return for your donation.

£5 or more

£5 Reward

A personalised tweet/email of thanks for supporting our project!

£15 or more

£15 Reward

A personalised thank you card designed by one of the children who have accessed our Children’s Voice service and signed by the OFM team. PLUS, a free hard copy of our ‘Helping Children Thrive’ handbook designed for professionals and separated parents.

£35 or more

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£35 Reward

An invitation to join our next fundraiser walking tour around Oxford for free. PLUS, a personalised card of thanks.

£50 or more

£50 Reward

An OFM tote bag featuring artwork created by one of the children who have benefitted from our Children’s Voice service, a ‘putting children at the centre, not in the middle’ OFM pen and a personalised thank you card.

£100 or more

£100 Reward

Entry into a prize-draw to attend our next fundraising dinner at a luxury country home in Oxfordshire. PLUS, a piece of OFM merchandise of your choosing (tote bag, pen, or card).

£150 or more

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£150 Reward

A set of OFM’s ‘putting children at the centre, not in the middle’ pens for a class of up to 30 students, and a one hour telephone consultancy with OFM on how to support children and families affected by parental separation for an Oxfordshire-based school of your choosing.

£225 or more

£225 Reward

An invitation to our next fundraising dinner at a luxury country home in rural Oxfordshire with an honorary mention. PLUS, a piece of OFM merchandise of your choosing (tote bag, pen, or card) and a personalised thank you card.

£500 or more

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£500 Reward

A full OFM training day for an Oxfordshire-based school of your choosing on how to support children and families affected by parental separation, provided free of charge. PLUS, an OFM piece of merchandise of your choosing (tote, pen, or card).

£1,000 or more

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£1,000 Reward

An honourary reception and toast at our next fundraising dinner at a luxury country home set in the beautiful Oxfordshire countryside; your name listed as a donor on our website; a personalised card; a selection of OFM merchandise; PLUS, a free training day on mediation skills and/or supporting families affected by parental separation led by OFM’s Director for an Oxfordshire-based organisation of your choosing.


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